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Is Managing Children’s Behaviour All About Control?
I’m quite often asked if my successful behaviour management techniques are about control.
The other day a woman was walking her dog by my house and I saw it refuse to move. As she pulled on the lead the collar slipped off and the dog ran up the road in the direction of the very busy main road. When she shouted, the dog luckily sat down and she was able to replace its collar. The next try failed and the dog was nearer the main road. The woman was panicking and gave in to the dog’s desire to go in the opposite direction from where she wanted it to go. So, the dog got it’s own way, it’s life put in danger from the traffic – all because she didn’t have the right equipment, was using the wrong techniques and was in the wrong place and failed to have control.
A few days ago I was driving and noticed a woman waiting to cross the road with 2 children either side of a pram. One child ran into the road in front of my car. Fortunately I was being observant and not in a dream and stopped before hitting the child. The situation could have been distastrous. The woman had few options – leave the pram and other child, push the pram and the other child into the road to rescue the one in the middle, scream at the child – all the options were risky. The same as the lady with the dog the situation arose because the adult didn’t have control of the situation and three children were put into a dangerous position.