Pam Ponders

There are many tasks that you will have to learn and overcome but many of them you can get teaching for, child rearing is not one of them and when you are faced with child behavior problems it is hard to know who to turn to. As each child is different, you may find that what has worked for your friend or family members will not work for you. I am going to tell you about a few methods that have been used by professionals and parents alike and has meant that you too can successfully benefit from what has been learned.

Some of the problems that children may have is that they are suffering from a medical condition which causes some aspects of their behaviour. Even though certain problems can make behaviour worse you will find that you can still lesson the problems by taking the advice that I am about to give you and this could actually give you the opportunity to avoid giving medication to your young one which is always a bonus.

When a child plays up, if you are to shout at them they will still be receiving attention even though it is not the attention you would deem as good. They are too young to determine what is good and bad when they receive attention from an adult which is why the behaviour continues.

Sometimes, whether through television, older siblings or others outside a child picks up bad language. This can be embarrassing and many people find that by telling young children off they only seem to make the problem worse. It has been shown that the best way is to ignore it as if it is not even a word and only reply to the child when they speak politely. When they are having a tantrum that is so bad they could end up causing injury to themselves or someone else the best thing to do is to hold them to restrain them from doing so, yet not communicate with them. When they are calmer you can let them get down and play again.

Time out has been used effectively for many years, it does not mean that you have to put your child into their room if this is not convenient or they share with siblings. You need only find somewhere such as a step, a rug, a chair or somewhere you know is safe to put them until they are calmer. This method can be used not only in the home but also at the homes of friends and family. The child should be left in time out depends on their age. A child of six will need to be left for six minutes.

If you find that the child keeps moving from the spot you put them in then you will have to return them to the place no matter how many times it takes to get them to stay there. Although this may seem hard at first you will find that it gets easier and will be worth the work.

To enforce the fact that good behaviour is acceptable when they do as asked straight away or play well with others and share you can give them a little reward to show how proud you are of them. This will mean they are more likely to show you their good side rather than their bad in the future.

Sticker charts have also been proven to effectively encourage good behaviour. Depending on your child’s age you will award a sticker each time your child does something straight away without argument that they are being told to do, or plays nicely. The rewards will depend on the behaviour you are trying to teach. You decide how many stickers must be earned before they are rewarded and make sure you stick to it.

The manners and good behaviour that you are teaching your child will not only help you to be more settled and less stressed, you will also find that in the future when they start school that they concentrate on the task put out for them meaning that they will learn more and not disrupt other members of the class. When they are adults and have their own children you will have provided them with skills that will help them through parenthood.

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