Pam Ponders

Marriage failure does not happen overnight. Almost in every case, marriage failure in a slow but steady pace. Ideally, partners should respond to any problem right away before it can do severe damage to the relationship. It is important, therefore, that couples should recognize that their marriage is in trouble in its early stages. At this early, you can still work things out, decide to make some changes and refresh your commitment to each other. Ironically, couples fail to identify some obvious signs of marriage trouble, probably because the problems appear very minor and it can be ignored very easily.

Below is the list of warning signs of a troubled marriage:

You don’t have anything in common anymore.
Marriage has the ability to change people, but that doesn’t mean that mean you have to take the bad turn. If you are living together under the same roof, but do not enter into a meaningful conversation or have reduced interest to be with each other to perform usual activities you once enjoyed, this is a sign that of a troubled relationship.

Uncharacteristic change in appearance
A few years from now, you will reach the comfort level wherein you don’t see the use to look perfect as you were before. However, drastic change in your spouse’s hygiene and appearance could mean that he or she is no longer happy with the way your relationship is going.

Romance is no longer there
Physical affection is an act that that connects spouses to one another.
If your spouse is given no or very little regard on the importance of affection, he or she has little importance on your emotional bond as husband and wife.

Prolonged arguments on the same topic
Argument, as many would agree, is part of being married, but if you argue over the same topic without any resolution whatsoever, then it is a big and evident problem. If you think your problems cannot be solved by just the two of you, then a professional’s advice would come in handy.

You can do no things correctly
Those who criticize ordinary activities of their partner are the same people who keep marriage problems on their own. If you feel that similar thing happens to you, your marriage may be hurting.

Information becomes something that should be solicited
For a marriage to work, trust and effective communication should be exercised by husbands and wives, so when you discover important information about your spouse’s career, achievements, and problems from another person, something wrong must be going on. Communication failure is an evident sign that the marriage is going down.

While the reasons why many couples fight are different from one couple to another, marriage trouble is not something that is happening to a handful of couples. In fact, many newlyweds will encounter problems after the celebration is over. The secret here is keeping an open line to your spouse.