Pam Ponders

When I went through a particularly hard breakup I never thought in a million years I’d manage to get my wife back. How little I knew.

I was lost, literally. I just didn’t know what to do. After what seemed like an eternity looking for info on how to get over my ex, I accidentally came across a book on how to get her back.

To be honest I’m probably the worlds biggest sceptic. I was willing to put money on it being a crock of….well, you get the picture. To cut a long story short a thought I’d waste forty bucks on it.

One of the bonus sections dealt with psychology and how we use it every day to almost control other people with silent suggestion.

This part of the package spoke out loud to me. I recognised these methods straight away. Psychological triggers I had used on my children to get them to do things they didn’t want to.

Without even realising it, we might use reverse psychology in our everyday lives. Imagine trying to get a lazy flatmate to go play football.

They aren’t very keen on the idea so you hit them with the old “it’s ok if you aren’t physically up to it” line. They come straight back with a proud “of course I am, when do we start”.

We played the psychology card here. Using their own pride as the tool against them. These same tricks can be used to get your ex back on track.

I pulled my self together mentally and called my ex and left her a subtle message. I put in a hook that my ex would be curious about. Curiosity is a huge factor in our lives. Tie it with a bit of psychology and bam! Super powers!

My ex called me back the next day. But more importantly she called me to ask about me, how I was, what I was doing. She didn’t consciously realise I’d planted the seed in the message the day before.

I didn’t ask her to call me when I left the message. But I was pretty confident she would call me. And I was right.

After she called it was easy going to get back together. I wasn’t going to let her in on the secret that it was me who’d made that first move. I let her think it was her.

After the breakup I was looking for stuff to help me get over her and I ended up doing a u-turn and trying to get my ex back. Which worked out well for me.

If it hadn’t worked, as I expected it not to, I’d have taken the writer up on the guarantee and gone and watched a game!